The following is a short book preview contributed by the Ohio State University Leadership Center.
Resolving Conflicts at Work: Ten Strategies for Everyone on the Job
Kenneth Cloke & Joan Goldsmith, San Francisco: Jossey-Bass (2011)
- Let go of your own ideas, role, and agenda and try to understand what the other person is saying.
- Become curious about what makes them tick.
- Before you speak, draw out the other person’s ideas.
- Search behind the words for the other person’s meaning. Especially is he or she disagrees with you.
- Discover and manage your listener’s unspoken expectations.
- Respond respectfully and nondefensively acknowledging and addressing the other person’s concerns first.
- Choose an appropriate form of communicating.
- Speak respectfully, empathically, and responsively.
- Demonstrate that you heard the other person’s deeper needs and feelings.
- Anticipate objections and address them before they are raised.
- Clarify and emphasize our agreements.
- Acknowledge differences and restate issues positively.
- State your interests instead of your positions.
- Ask for feedback.
- Compliment the other person for listening (Cloke & Goldsmith, 2011, p. 51-54).
Resolving Conflicts at Work is available from the OSU Leadership Center.
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