The following is a short book preview contributed by the Ohio State University Leadership Center.
The Trust Edge: How Top Leaders Gain Faster Results, Deeper Relationships, and a Stronger Bottom Line
David Horsager, Minneapolis: Summerside Press (2010)
One of the easiest ways to be forgiven by people is to let go of your own grudges. If the people around you know you have been willing to bury quarrels in the past, they’ll be much more likely to feel the same way towards you. The following tips on forgiveness will go a long way towards rebuilding trust:
- Acknowledge what really happened
- Acknowledge feelings are truly hurt
- Be willing to apologize for your role in the matter first
- Be patient
- Recognize how much you have been forgiven by others and by God
- Forgive yourself. Understand you are not perfect
- Talk to an uninvolved friend or professional. Do not gossip or speak to someone on the sidelines
- Give up the need to be right
- Seek help and accountability to change bad habits
- Set appropriate boundaries (Horsager, 2010 p. 258-259)
The Trust Edge is available from the OSU Leadership Center.
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